Name Yourself

Have you ever received a gift that took you totally by surprise because it was exactly what you needed even though, until you opened it, you didn’t know such a thing existed? On Thursday when I got home from work there was an unexpected box in front of my door. I hadn’t ordered anything and […]

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Death Desires

What kind of death do you want? That’s not a question many of us probably want to think about. It presumes that we want some kind of death when many of us would simply prefer not to die. The inevitability of dying doesn’t make it easier to think about desire and death in the same […]

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The Trouble With Talking About Sex and Death

One of my personal missions is to open space for people to talk not just about sexuality but also about dying, and specifically about the ways that their end of life plans take sexuality and intimacy into account. Conversations about end of life wishes are incredibly hard for many of us. Conversations about our personal sexual or intimate needs are often also difficult. How can we possibly talk about both at the same time?

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